Porn Addiction

Is Porn destroying your relationship

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Porn is destroying relationships and marriages. Men or women are becoming addicted to porn. The majority of porn addiction is from the males but there are also a small percentage of women also addicted to porn. They cant have sex with out watching porn prior to or during sex or they are watching it behind their partners back.

A questioned asked by many Psychologists around the world and including leading Sociologists who specialize in porn is "Is watching porn behind your partners back cheating?" the answer is absolutely yes.

What is portrayed in porn is now been found by leading researchers to be 90% sexual violence and abuse. If you are a couple who has to watch porn while having sex then you have serious problems in your relationship. You just haven't, or wont acknowledged it yet. And many couple wont either until its too late.

An addiction to porn can also lead to physical cheating with another person outside of the relationship, it is a serious issue and needs to be addressed as just that.
As a Psychologist i see all the time magazines promoting porn as being good for your relationship, then links to porn sites which they also get paid to advertise. Irresponsible journalism from 24 year old something people who work for these magazines with zero medical training, or even life experience.
When in fact the medical research shows the complete opposite. It is destroying relationships, bring sexual and domestic violence into homes and into relationship,s and exposing children to abuse and porn addictionCausing erectile dysfunction in males.


If your relationship is suffering because of porn or even porn addiction, please seek the advice of a Psychologist and doctor. Relationships do not survive this addiction unless you seek professional medical help.

Last year Cosmopolitan Magazine did an article   
A young guy around 24-26 yrs old with no medical background no training, the author of the article wrote. "The six things women need to know about having multiple orgasms". The article was a complete joke....and we soon told them so. The six things had nothing to do with anything medical, all of it total crap and just a fluff piece written by a guy no less, who didn't have one clue about female orgasms and the Psychology of human sexuality. He has probably never given a women a real orgasm in his entire life. And here we have who ever, what ever age group, reading this rubbish thinking OK this is how it must be. By the way is summery of the six things were that the women had to be smoking hot to have an orgasm.

Many times a guy will want to bring into the bedroom or the home, into their sex life with their partner, the porn they have been watching. They basically want their partner to "perform" like the porn stars in that movie. And yes people it is a performance. Porn is prostitution with a camera.
The person is performing sex acts on another person for money and getting paid to do so.
Please take the time to read a world wide article and watch the world acclaimed authorities and documentaries about the dangerous of porn and how it has now become a public health crisis. This is an article and video you are not going to want to miss.World acclaimed film directors made a documentary film about the dangers of the porn and sex industry, also winner at the Sundance film Festival in 2015; and Kim Kardashian is even mentioned in this video because she made porn to get noticed, and is constantly taking her clothes off for the world to see her "hello Kitty, ass, tits; she is selling herself for money, a form of prostitution; Fifty Shades of Grey also mentioned because its promoting sexual abuse, violence, dangerous to our society; hell even the producers acknowledged this.  READ MORE HERE
When porn performers, were asked do they have sex like they do in their porn movies in their every day lives with their partners or just in general, the majority said no.  

When you find out your partner has been a porn addict behind your back, it is a huge betray of trust in that person, off course this is going to effect the way you perceive yourself when you are actually having sex with your partner, and how you perceive yourself also as a women or a man Your libido is going to leave the room. 
How would you honestly feel while knowing while having sex with your partner they were actually having fantasies and wishing they were having sex with someone else, the porn actress, actor in their porn movies they have been watching. 
Of course any normal human being is going to be hurt, betrayed by this.

I have been that women betrayed by her partner-husband who was addicted to porn- then hard core porn, going to sex dungeons behind my back.
He then progressed to prostitutes, then cheating with multiple partners for years and i had no clue.
Drugs, cocaine, speed and other drugs. (This was my first husband) We had a sex life at home, he certainly was not going with out. I noticed many changes in him as a man while we were married. He couldn't last more than 2 minutes without ejaculating. The pleasure became about him mostly and not me.
He kept wanting anal sex with no preparation for this, just wham straight into it. (anal sex takes weeks sometimes months of preparation, especially if your partner has a large penis. Otherwise you are going to cause serve pain to your partner and quite possibly tearing of the anus. I will be covering anal sex in a future article.) He wanted rough sex. He became abusive in our marriage, i was a battered wife, victim of domestic violence for many years.
I began to notice huge changes in our sex life, his own actions in general. My first instinct was he is cheating. So i asked him point blank. Answer was no, don't you trust me, full on deflection mode.
I gave him the benefit of the doubt until the day i caught him red handed, for which i was beaten up for. His ass was out the door. (a subject to address at another time)
It was then that i had to find out my husband at that time was leading a double life.
He was a Corporate Executive so he traveled the world.
My biggest fear then became has he given me an STD. So had to go and have the barrage of blood tests, and then follow up blood tests a few years later.
This is the reality for millions of partners around the world who have been the victim of cheating, from their partner being addicted to porn.
You have to be worried that your partner who you trusted and gave yourself to has not given you an STD or even aids.

I am remarried to a man the complete opposite of my first husband. When you go through cheating it takes a long time to really trust another person.
The person who is cheating is selfish, they are only thinking of themselves not the other people around them they are hurting.

Sex is for the most part about intimacy, with the partner who is physically in the room with you, whom you love. Porn is actually destroying that intimacy in the person who is addicted to the porn.
They can not fully connect with their own partner, they are still emotionally connected to the images in the porn, either the women or the man in that film.

The porn men and women are chosen on their looks; age. For men the size of their cock, for women they have to have this perfect vagina-well what these men who are the producers of the porn perceive as perfect. They have to be willing to do what ever is asked of them. Degraded on a daily basis.
Basically the producers want models, very young petite women, barely 18 yrs of age or younger, and the guys 18-45 yrs old with perfect physics and the right size cock. These actors have a shelf life, for women in the porn industry its much younger than the men.
Young guys are having performance issues, not being able to take it all the way to the finish line unless they are thinking about porn, some strange women being fucked seven shades of Sunday.
"Doctors and leading medical researchers are seeing  "increased sexual dysfunction among young men these days"

"The content is so much more violent; it's much more about violence than sex,"

 Dr. Tyger Latham is a clinical psychologist practicing in Washington, D.C., where he specializes in men's issues, trauma, and LGBT concerns.
I often see men in my practice who are referred by their urologists for “sexual performance issues.”  Frequently, these men present with erectile dysfunction(ED), premature ejaculation, or in some cases delayed ejaculation. 
By the time they reach me, most of them have undergone all kinds of medical tests, only to be told that their “plumbing is just fine” and so their problems must be in their heads.  Maybe in some cases this is true, but often I find the problem is more complicated.
In fact, I’m starting to see a growing number of men whose ED appears to stem from a combination of both physiological and psychological factors.

Several male clients have asked me whether I think their ED might be related to their frequent reliance on pornography when masturbating.  Like many health professionals who work with sexual dysfunction in men, I use to think that a man’s ability to get an erection and orgasm while viewing pornography was by definition a rule out for ED.  “If you can get it up and climax during porn than the problem can’t be physical,” I erroneously concluded; but anecdotal evidence has got me thinking otherwise.
In researching this topic, I quickly discovered that my male clients are not alone.  A cursory search of the Internet unearthed dozens of websites and message boards inundated with personal accounts of men who attest to the fact that excessive masturbation to online pornography has seriously interfered with their ability to be sexually intimate with a partner.

Here are more links for readers with further evidence from medical studies; this study more than 28,000 men took part in the study..... Sexual Medicine ( The European Society of sexual medicine), Porn can cause male sexual dysfunction by lowering libido and eventually leading to an inability to get an erection. 

Addiction COM In short, porn addiction may cause, in addition to the usual symptoms, various forms of male sexual dysfunction. Recent studies that prove this merely confirm what porn addicts and those who treat them have reported anecdotally for many years – increasingly so since the beginning of the online porn boom in 2008. So now we can officially add “reduced or even nonexistent interest in real-world sexual encounters” to the ever-growing list of porn addiction symptoms and consequences. 

Men's Journal 
Not surprisingly, porn-induced ED can create further performance-anxiety concerns, compounding into a problem that is both biological and psychological. "People can start developing real self-confidence issues," Dr. Waterman says.

Porn causing erectile dysfunction in young men Read Here from Global news article

Porn addiction is real, quitting a genuine pornography addiction is extremely challenging.  For many guys, it is the hardest challenge they’ve ever faced. Men are posting on forums for help. Men, teens who have been dealing with their porn addiction and porn-induced ED for 5, sometimes 10 years, escape from their addiction can seem impossible. But there is hope and for you to get help you have to first own up to having a problem. You have genuinely want to end this addiction before it is too late. There is no shame in this, please go and see your doctor they can refer you to a psychologists who specializes in ED and sex addiction.
Main stream media do not want people to know this information about addiction because many get paid by the porn industry to advertise their sites for them.

Women are actually being raped inside relationships by their partners who are addicted to porn. These men want their partner to be their own porn stars in their relationships. Rough sex, and rough anal sex. College rapes and abuse are up because of porn. Child sexual abuse is up also because of porn.
Teaching disrespect to women. You can read more HERE


"If you understand what sexual abuse is, what humiliation is, what rape and intimate partner violence---domestic violence are, then imagine if people get paid and are generating profits from those activities. That's what the sex industry is, what porn is."
There is a new drug and its streaming free into homes around the world " PORN " #FightTheNewDrug      Abuse and sexual violence

You absolutely can have a relationship without porn. My husband and i don't have porn in our relationship or sex life and we have a thriving, amazing, and full sex life just like the millions of other couples around the world do who don't need or want porn in their relationship.
There are a number of ways you can spice up your sex life, have your own sexual fantasies about each other while having sex and you don't need porn to do this. (I will be covering this very subject in a new article).
In fact our book we wrote that i was co-author for Shades of Grey address's this very thing in address sex through out the book.

If you have children and are a parent or Grandparent then you must read this article Children are learning Abuse & Sexual Violence from Porn


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